I'm Ashley — an Emotional Success Coach and Certified Conscious EFT™ Practitioner.
I help women navigate the wild middle of midlife — the part where you don't recognize yourself, your patience is shot, and you're pretty sure your nervous system is staging a coup.
Spoiler: It's not a breakdown. It's a becoming. And there's actually a way through that doesn't involve white-knuckling it alone.
A different kind of growth begins here
It doesn't announce itself.
There's no moment where your body says okay, things are changing now, brace yourself. It's more like one day you realize you've been white-knuckling something — your mood, your sleep, your sense of yourself — for longer than you can remember. And you're not sure exactly when that started.
For me it was the rage that confused me most. Not at anything dramatic. At a drawer that wouldn't close. At a question asked at the wrong moment. The disproportionate reaction I could see myself having and couldn't stop.
And then staring at my screen wanting deep focus and finding nothing there. Standing in front of my closet, knowing every single piece in it, and not recognizing any of it as mine. Feeling myself changing into someone I hadn't met yet, with no idea what she wanted to wear.
Here's what I eventually understood: none of it was random. None of it was weakness. It was a nervous system completely overwhelmed, trying to metabolize an enormous amount of change.
The difference for me was that I had a map. Years of nervous system work, EFT practice, somatic tools — not because I was prescient, but because this work had already become how I lived. When perimenopause arrived I didn't have to find the tools. I had to learn to apply them to something I'd never navigated before.
That's what changed everything. And it's what I want to give you.
The Part Nobody Warned You About
Here's the short version: My labs came back showing hormone levels that should have left me bedridden. DHEA nearly at zero. Gut in crisis. The works.
But I wasn't bedridden. I was still working, parenting, building a business.
My doctor's exact words: "The only reason you're still functioning is because of your nervous system work."
All those years of practicing what I'd been teaching—the EFT tapping, the somatic work, the regulation tools—they weren't just "nice to have." They were literally keeping me upright when my biology was failing.
That experience changed how I understand this whole phase of life.
Perimenopause isn't just hormones going haywire.
It's your nervous system trying to process massive change without the support it needs. It's your nervous system trying to process one of the most significant hormonal shifts of your life, while you're still expected to function like a normal human."
No wonder it feels like too much. It IS a lot.
But here's what I've also learned: when you work WITH your nervous system instead of against it, this becomes something completely different.
Not a crisis to survive.
Not a phase to push through.
A portal into who you're actually becoming.
(I know "portal" sounds woo. Stay with me. It's also science.)
I've spent the last several years learning more about the nervous system than I ever expected to. Partly through professional training, and partly because my own body gave me no other choice.
What I've Figured Out (The Hard Way)
Here's what I believe:
Your nervous system is navigating one of the most significant neuroendocrine shifts of your adult life. There's more capacity for real change available to you right now than there's been since adolescence.
But here's the catch — and this is the part no one's telling you:
You can't access that potential from survival mode.
When your nervous system is maxed out, when you're running on fumes, when your capacity is this depleted — your brain can't do the rewiring. It's too busy trying to keep you upright.
This is why the supplements aren't working. Why the mindset stuff isn't sticking. Why you can't just "push through" anymore.
Your system needs capacity before it can change.
That's the work. Not thinking your way through. Not optimizing harder. Building the nervous system foundation that lets your brain actually do what it's trying to do...
Here's what I do:
I'm Ashley — Certified Conscious EFT™ Practitioner and the Co-founder of The Wild Middle.
Together with my business partner, and best friend Carly, we built something we couldn't find anywhere else: a framework for perimenopause that starts where the experience actually lives, in your nervous system.
The Wild Middle Method™ blends Conscious EFT™, somatic practice, and nervous system education to support women through one of the most significant reorganizations of their lives.
EFT — Emotional Freedom Technique — is tapping on acupressure points while processing emotions and beliefs. It sounds strange. It works. There's solid research behind it, and we've watched it change things for women when nothing else could.
Here's what we know to be true:
You can optimize your hormones. If your nervous system is in survival mode, it won't land.
You can do all the mindset work. If your body doesn't feel safe, it won't stick.
Regulation first. Then everything else becomes possible.
I work one to one with women who want deep, private, personalized support, nervous system rewiring tailored specifically to you.
Carly and I hold the group work together because your nervous system was never meant to heal in isolation, and there's something that happens in community that no solo practice can replicate.
Two ways in. One foundation. The Wild Middle.
3 minutes. Personalised results. A real place to begin.
You're doing all the things. And something still isn't holding.
It's not the big moments that are breaking you. It's the ordinary ones — and the reaction that didn't match, that you saw coming and couldn't stop.
The Four Pillars Assessment shows you exactly which part of your nervous system needs support first. So you stop trying to fix everything at once and start somewhere that will actually move the needle.
Not Sure Where to Start?
EFT has been an unexpected and very welcome practice in my life. When I heard about tapping as a way to regulate my nervous system and to facilitate healing, I was curious and open minded, but didn’t know what to expect.
What I have experienced over the past few months, with Ashley as my guide, has been gentle and consistent transformation. Ashley has created a safe, easy and warm container to explore and identify patterns, and she leads me through them as a gentle and encouraging companion.
I can confidently say that within the past 4 months, I have been able to not only identify certain thoughts and feelings, but to work through them in a deep and meaningful capacity, while feeling calm and present.
I would highly recommend working with Ashley, whether new to EFT or familiar with the process. She is wonderful!
— Liat
"Tapping has been life-changing, in a gradual and easeful way, thanks to Ashley’s insightful facilitation. I have felt held, seen and completely safe, which I believe is a key component of the success of this practice for me."
"She helped me move through old patterns, thought cycles and find so much expansiveness. Throughout all of our sessions, I felt safe and at ease - no judgement, no embarrassment. It was like talking to a friend, who could reflect my own thoughts back to me in a way that allowed the space and grace to explore them and rewire.
Highly recommend trying a few sessions… this is for anyone and everyone who has ever felt like they’re “all up in their own head during this big time of change!
— Private Coaching client
"I worked with Ashley for several months, and can tell you all - she’s the REAL DEAL.."
